Leading by example

Leading by example is inspiring, not only to those whom you lead, but also for yourself.We all know from experience that we can’t change other people, yet most of us have a tendency to try. This is because we naturally feel the need to do something to change situations that we find troubling. It often doesn’t occur to us that the best way to create change is not to try to convince others to change but to change ourselves. When we make adjustments from within, we become role m

Anger from the past does not serve you.

The emotional trigger that begins an argument may have little to do with your present situation, but has dug up a wound. When we find ourselves in an argument, we may feel like we are losing control of emotions that have taken on lives of their own. When we can become aware that this is happening, taking a deep breath can help us step back from the situation. Once we can separate ourselves from the heat of the moment, we may find that the emotional trigger that began the argu

Can you just be still?

Quiet time each day is so important, but many are so out of practice that it’s almost unnerving to be in stillness.It’s funny to imagine our lives as something we spend a lot of time avoiding, because it seems like that would be impossible to do. Our lives consist of everything we engage in, from showering to sleeping, but also a lot of busy work that distracts us and keeps us from looking at our lives. Experiencing our life from the inside means taking time each day to simpl

When others believe in you

It is important that we all find people that believe in us, just as we believe in others.There are times in our lives when we may find ourselves facing challenges that can seem overwhelming. The situation or task we are struggling with seems hopeless, and it is easy to stop believing in ourselves, our goals, and our dreams. It is during these moments that it can be reassuring and reaffirming to turn to the people in our lives who do believe in us, especially when we are findi

Addicted to Anger

There has probably never been a time where there has been so much fear and conflict across the world, not just across oceans and borders but across the breakfast table. In fact many now prefer conflict to peace, as they become addicted to the actions of anger and aggression, and the adrenaline rush which results. They don’t really want conflict to end, in fact, they will say that some conflict is good to get things done and stimulate change. They are not aware that they are k

When you have a bad day..

We all have bad days and within these days is usually a gem of a gift waiting to be opened.We all have days from time to time when it feels like the world is against us or that the chaos we are experiencing will never end. One negative circumstance seems to lead to another. You may wonder, on a bad day, whether anything in your life will ever go right again. But a bad day, like any other day, can be a gift. Having a bad day can show you that it is time to slow down, change co

Recharge your spiritual battery

Each day we all need to recharge our spiritual battery, otherwise the light of our consciousness becomes dim, thoughts become fuzzy, and decisions are impregnated with doubt. Power is available inside and outside. Inside us we have a spiritual centre, at the core of our consciousness, pure radiant spiritual light. This is what we are. However it is now blocked by our attachments, the record of all our life experiences and many learned beliefs and perceptions. Outside us we ha

Stop Wasting Time

Many of us spend most of our life trying to live someone else’s life. We are great fixers, and as we watch others we can hear ourselves attempting to ‘sort them out’. We hear it in our conversations with others and with ourselves. It sounds like, “They shouldn’t…weren’t they awful…did you hear about so and so…in my opinion they should”. In these moments we waste time trying to write the script of others and forget to write our own. We have no right to write another’s script a

Speak with purpose

When we focus on bringing purpose to our speech, we bring healing and meaning to our relationships, our communities, and the world.Speaking with Purpose, Not Impulse means entering deeply into the root causes and motivations that cause us to wield our words in impulsive, hurtful, and even destructive ways. It is the practice of bringing kinder and more conscious intention not only to the ways in which we interact with others but to ourselves too. So many of us do our best to

I have my path and you have yours …

If my friends do not choose to accompany me on my spiritual path, why should I chase after them trying to get them to change? They won’t listen to me anyway, no matter what I say. A better approach is to focus on my own change process. A river doesn’t need to urge people into drinking its water. People are naturally drawn to it, provided its waters are pure, free flowing and sweet. In the same way become so attractive through your spiritual efforts that everyone will want to

Are you the cause or effect of your life?

The principle of cause and effect is the truth that allows us to better ourselves and the world around us.All motive and action affects the cosmos in some way. The principle of cause and effect is the truth that allows us to change ourselves and the world around us for the better. However, this same universal law is also at work when change is not at the forefront of our minds. Our intentions flow forever outward in the form of energy, affecting both the people closest to us

I surrender to you …

Surrender should be seen as a great strength and comes when we let go of trying to attain the impossible.Most of us were raised and live in a culture that emphasizes the ideals of independence and control. The general idea is that we are on our own and we don’t need any help from anyone else, and if we are really successful it’s because we are in complete control. However, true lasting success comes only with surrender, which is the opposite of control. We cannot accomplish a

What’s it worth to you?

Our worth of being on the planet at this time cannot be judged as we are all worthy and essential to being here now. The issue of worthiness may come up in many areas of our lives, as we ask, often unconsciously, whether we are worthy of success, love, happiness, and countless other things, from supportive relationships to a beautiful home. In the end, though, it all comes down to one thing: our willingness to claim our space in this life as humans on this planet at this time

Who cares wins…

Facing the truth upfront rather than turning from it will keep your life moving in a forward and positive direction.Most of us have had the experience of being in possession of a piece of truth that we were afraid to share because we knew it would not be well received. There are also instances in which we ourselves have been unable to handle some truth confronting us. This might be a small truth, such as not wanting to see that our car needs repairs because we don’t want to p

The blessing of being disappointments

The gift of disappointment is to bring us into reality so we don’t get stuck in the realm of how things might have been.Whenever we do something in life with an expectation of how we’d like it to turn out, we risk experiencing disappointment. When things don’t go the way we had envisioned, we may feel a range of emotions from slightly let down to depressed or even angry. We might direct our feelings inward toward ourselves, or outward toward other people or the universe in ge

Each of us is doing our best

Each one of us is very much needed and we all have our role to play in adding to the success of the whole.In the great symphony of life, we all have important parts to play. While some people are best suited to be conductors or soloists, their contributions would be diminished considerably without the individual musicians that lend their artistry to the fullness of an orchestra. The magical accents of the percussion section might sound random and out of place without the musi

Looking at the bigger picture

Often, we want to be shown the big picture but it is not always in our best interest as we can easily become overwhelmed.Sometimes, we may find ourselves wishing we knew what our lives are going to look like or what gifts and challenges are going to be presented to us in the coming months or years. We may want to know if the relationship we’re in now will go the distance or if our goals will be realized. Perhaps we feel like we need help making a decision and we want to know

The First Rule of Fight Club

The first rule of fight club is don’t talk about fight club, why?In Chuck Palahniuk’s movie tends to contradict modern thinking and social media based broadcasting of our lives and experiences of expressing who we are. This is probably one of the most under estimated movies of all times, it challenges you in striping away each layer of the ideas of your identity slowly and deeply asking “Who are you?” So why could we not talk about it, it’s because if you spoke your journey t

Thoughts become things like….

When you talk to yourself in your mind, which self do you address? And how? Usually people do not talk to their divinity, but to the most superficial aspects of their everyday personality. And often it’s a stream of fears, complaints and a mindless repetition of old things. If we talked that way to another human being, we would have to apologise. Learning to talk properly to the self is a spiritual endeavour. Thoughts from the past and worries about the future do not create g